The Mystery of Jerks

Ido Victor. Not a jerk. Model only.

A friend recently got entangled in a pseudo-relationship: he didn’t know that he was dating a guy who already has a boyfriend. Thanks to my loud mouth quite accidentally, he discovered early on. He was, how do you say that again? Devastated. Because the guy is hot, charming, handsome, smart and, uh, hot. And he was beginning to love the jerk, beyond the late-night sex and the amorous text messages. Later, my friend, during comfort episodes, would reveal that the Mr. Jerk was inconsistent and mercurial at times. Tell-tale signs of something amiss in the calculus of Mr. Jerk’s so-called affections for my poor friend. Which got me thinking – what is it about jerks anyways that make them so appealing sometimes? Do we get attracted at some point in our lonely lives to the self-destructive skunks? But how? In the article The Mystery of Jerks by Katz and Holmes, the conclusion reads: Admittedly, there are a few people who probably enjoy the histrionics and the moods and the make-up sex that come with dating drama kings and queens. But I’d bet that most are just willing to tolerate the drama, because, thus far, that drama comes attached to the “best” person they could find. Essentially, they’re saying, “Yeah, he’s inconsistent, selfish, and distant, but he’s all mine.” Just realize that every second you’re spending with the wrong guy is a second that you’re not out looking for the right one, the guy who gives, the guy who listens, the guy who learns. Darn, this is all so true. Are you reading this, Honey?

3 thoughts on “The Mystery of Jerks”

  1. is there such a thing as pink love?

    honestly, jerks were straight guys whose only after is sex and money..let’s admit it..unless he is bi or gay like us..

    my advice, spend your vacation in the middle east..where many men adore gays..discreet or effem..

    that’s when the time i forget all the jerks in the philippines

    wanna taste the arab delight?

  2. ouch! i have to admit, i fell for one. after reading your post, it got me thinking if it’s about time to go looking for the “one” rather than waste my time with mr. “jerk” of all trades and hoping that one day i could turn him into mr “jack”. thanks rd for the enlightenment. – g_spot

  3. rd, sana mag post ka pa ng mga pictures ni ido dito. sana yung next post mo about him nasa dick a day na cya para maging masaya ang lahat. thanks

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